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The first of two observations is men will seek out what they want and are not currently getting from their immediate surroundings. If a man is not getting the quantity, quality or frequency of sex from his wife or girlfriend he will seek it out from another woman to will fulfill his perceived needs. A man is fickle when it comes to sex. He wants sex at a time convenient to him, in a specific manner and at his preferred location. Most men today accept these parameters to be set by their significant other rather than stating his needs to his significant other and fulfilling those needs.
This creates a power struggle between men and women. Men want sex on their terms but feel it is harder to find a woman to fulfill those terms than settle for mediocre sex with their current partner. Men do not want to scare off the woman they are currently with by seeming like a sex addict or want-to-be-porn-star if they feel their partner is not open to those same thoughts. So a man will find an outlet for those urges, thoughts, feelings through various means like adult internet dating sites, co workers, friends, strip bars, neighbors, etc. The short answer is: if men are not getting what they want/need from home, they will go seek it out elsewhere.
The second observation is based on mens desire for power within their lives. One of the most powerful displays of power is a mans influence on others, others being friends, family, co workers, associates and especially women. A man that can walk into a room of people with an aire of confidence and comfortably begin conversations with both men and women is perceived as desirable by women and admired by men. This creates sense of power over the audience which most men crave. Men want the attention of everyone in the room, especially all the women. A man that is not getting the attention he wants or feels he deserves at home will use that power to attract another women in order to exude his power over that other woman.
This is helpful in explaining the strong desire in most men (all my friends have this desire) of having sex with multiple women at the same time, a threesome. A threesome is a mans strongest single display of power over women. It is not an equal desire of women to have a threesome, whether it be with another woman or another man. In order for a man to have two women at the same time he must show both women that he is capable o satisfying both simultaneously. Most of us know how hard it is for one man to satisfy one woman, much less two women. Both women need to feel the same, that the man can satisfy both womens expectations. Both women will fight for the mans singular attention. If the man is perceived as desirable and powerful, both women may realize neither will attract his sole attention because if he can easily have two women now than he can have two women when ever he feels. The woman who understands this realizes she will not win the mans sole attention. The woman who does not understand will be emotionally hurt.
A man who wields his influence over women at will is a powerful man. Other men may detest his influence while other men may respect it and others may envy him. Same with women, some may detest his influence feeling he is disrespectful of women in whole and other women may get excited by his powerful influence on themselves and other women in his presence.
TC House
